Hello Friends! I have a real treat for you today...it's the Happenings' very first guest post. And it's from a pretty awesome little lady, my friend Janette! We swapped blogs today, so while she is entertaining you fine folks here, I'll be over in her little corner of the internet talking about some things I wish I knew before I became a mother! Enjoy her fabulous & amazing post...coming all the way to you from Jongleurville.
------------------------------------------------------------------------Bonjour Ashleylanders! Janette the Jongleur here! A girl that is undeniably delighted to be taking over the glory that is Hudson’s Happenings for a day. (Nervous!? I AM!) Just like you, I’m a fan of the dapper and destined-to-be-charmer, Hudsy and his ever-dazzling momma (Is Ash a prettypie or what?). I’m also a fan of blogging, ice crunching, thrifting and a great many other things…like mangos. But today, I’m here to talk about marriage. Yes, I’m also a long-haired lass married to my much adored hubaloo, Lovey. I’ve been the blissful Mrs. Lovey for 2 years…going on 3! I’m here today to share 5 things of the wedded sort… And just a side note, before I begin, your beloved Ashley is safe and sound...In fact, she's over in Jongleurville doing a post on 5 things of the motherly sort...So go check her out there if you please...
Disclaimer alert!!! I’m not here to dissuade anyone from marriage. Nor do I regret getting married (I realize the title of my exposition implies otherwise) I’m here to just share some essential things I wish someone would have told me…A virtual headsup, if you will…
I have 2 sets of in-laws…and that is probably the case for many couples nowadays. With this comes double the trouble (potentially). Yes, you do marry his family too…So please consider this and make sure you get along with his siblings, parents, AND his Uncle Steve who likes touching your long hair when in close proximity. (Can you say "awkward central"?!) But in all seriousness... There are many times Lovey and I feel stretched with familial obligations, holidays, weekly visits, sports games..etc. There are 40 of them and 2 of us…But I hold to the wise words of Paul the Apostle, "Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone." (Romans 12:18) So try to get along.
There exists a slight, unspoken rift between the married and unmarried. A few months back, I received a call from a (girl)friend who wanted the phone number of a mutual friend… She said she needed a “single girl” to talk to. One “who would understand what I’m going through”. At this point, I realized that I was of a different species. The Married Species! Did my friend forget that I was single (for years) before I was married? Perhaps this has happened to other married ladies and their single friends…Can you relate?
Love Languages exist! I’m not one to readily give credence to many things, but I really do believe these "Languages" are real (to an extent). And apparently, Lovey speaks Cuddle. He always wants to have me nearby. He feels loved and safe. I’m still learning cause I'm not much of a cuddle machine! I lean more toward the language of “Help Me in the Kitchen without Being Asked”. (These aren’t the names of the different Love Languages, but you catch my drift.) What's your Love Language?
If I had $1 for every time these following questions were (and are asked) I would currently be on Jongleurtonia (my dream, private island near Fiji) living in an over-water bungalow, sipping on a mango smoothie...Yuppers! You will get asked the following (It's unavoidable!):
Question 1: "How's married life?"
Question 2: "So...When are you guys having kids?"Answer to 1: Uh... good?
Answer to 2: Uh...I might be barren. Thanks for reminding me.
Oh boy! I don't mind the questions. I really don't...But maybe I can be asked something a little more original. like "What traditions have you started since your first day of wedded bliss?" Or "What's your favorite thing about married life?" "Least favorite?" (Isn't that much better?)
Marriage is about molding and shaping two separate lives into one. I love my hubaloo. I love our life together... (Notice I didn't say "love our lives together..."). Our hearts and souls are intertwined in an ethereal way that confounds and only God can fully explain. We are one. We are Mr. & Mrs. Lovey...till death do us part...And that's incredible to me. Seriously, someone should have told me!
Thanks for reading!